When I consider Lent, the first question that comes to mind is “what should I give up?” Though abstaining from meat, chocolate, alcohol or one of life’s other pleasures certainly has the potential to make for a reflective 40 days, Lent is as much about giving as it is giving up.
While initiating a discussion about boundaries can be scary, awkward or vulnerable, the conversation may be more welcomed than you imagine, and either way, the end result is worth it.
Door-slamming isn’t a practice that I’d recommend, but I learned some valuable lessons from one surprising outburst. I’m taking those lessons with me as I tread more gently across my threshold.
It’s hard enough to accept our own limitations, let alone to have someone else draw attention to them. But not only is receiving feedback a component of most jobs, it’s also a doorway to growth. Learning how to accept and integrate negative feedback productively has made me a better employee, co-worker, and person.
It’s easy to let days, weeks and months slip by without stepping outside my usual routine. Making lists of what I want to do helps me to focus my time and energy on the things that I value and love.
The holidays present us with an array of festive opportunities for social interaction. Make the most of these moments by asking good questions, listening closely, and seeking moments of connection.
Not all houseguests are created equal. The guests whom I strive to emulate when the tables turn and I’m the one camping out on a friend’s pullout couch share these characteristics.